Friday, September 30, 2011

this is just my 2 cents...

I'm SO tired of grown people who still act like they are 12 years old! They act like they have no responsibilities in this world! When you become 18 (legally an adult) or better yet get married & especially after you become a parent you need to really GROW UP & OWN IT! Own what you do & where you are in life. You should not need people to pick up your slack, to tell you when things need to be done, you should just look around & DO IT! Do not expect other people to do things for you. Examine all your possibilities & seek the best route. Make good decisions & learn from your mistakes. Be resourceful, be thrifty & by all means teach by example! Some days I may get frustrated at my hubby because he watches our pennies but in the end I am SO grateful we even have pennies to watch! Be the good role model that your child/children need so the next generation does not continue the cycle. Lazy people raise lazy children! I'm telling ya life is WAY too short to have to deal with ignorant people! Again...

this is just my 2 cents...

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Karma...

  1. kar·ma/ˈkärmə/Noun

    1. (in Hinduism and Buddhism) The sum of a person's actions in this and previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fate in future existences.
    2. Destiny or fate, following as effect from cause.  More »
     
    Karma...

Thursday, June 16, 2011

faces & places...

I am all about getting pictures taken to commemorate a moment. On this particular day we were attending an Easter Egg Hunt sponsored by a nearby city. We were all decked out in our new Easter clothes so why not?! Let me tell you why not... There were TONS of kids of all different ages. It was NOT the best laid plans & we did NOT have fun. They sectioned all the kids off by age or should I say anyone under THREE was in one area & all others OVER three were in another. Such poor planning!! When they finally announced that the egg hunt had the begun EVERY SINGLE EGG was gone, the tribe started crying, it was AWFUL! Let me just say it was one event that I will not be repeating even if my life depended upon it! =] If there was anything had by that day it was this picture! Man do I LOVE these kids! Here are some...


faces & places...

Friday, May 20, 2011

till death us do part...

After watching the news this past week regarding the "Governator", his mistress & their "love child" it made me think about something that has been on my mind quite a lot lately. When you see good people do bad things it makes you wonder what the hell happened!?!

In my own life I have had to deal with the break up of a marriage, not my own but people who at one time were close to us. I have tried to "put myself in this persons shoes" & tried to "get in their head" to TRY to figure out why they do the things they do. Remember everyone is entitled to an opinion & now I am expressing mine. You see I know this person, I've actually known her for quite awhile, she is a mother of a young girl & has been acting VERY recklessly in her decision making. She is married but apparently in her mind it's only a marriage on paper. I strongly believe that even if you feel that it's only on paper you are still married. Sadly instead of trying to do ANYTHING & EVERYTHING to mend her broken marriage she has taken up with another man. I think what bothers me the most is that she introduced this man to her daughter in fact they continually hang out with him all the while still being married. To my knowledge they, her Mother & Father, never even had any conversation with her about the end of their marriage. Don't you think that conversation needs to take place? What do you say when you are out with another man? Is he your "friend" or your "boyfriend"? Is this even normal?! Can someone please try to explain this to me?! 

Someone once shared something with me regarding a woman they knew personally that died tragically in a helicopter crash. What came to surface in the weeks following her death, unbeknownst to her husband, was that she was having an affair with a co worker. The day she died she was off to some spa with him & their helicopter crashed killing them both. I could say talk about Karma but all I can say is that a higher power knew something was wrong with that. This other man was also married but it gets better, he had children. There will now be baseball games, dances, weddings, etc.. that he will miss out on all because he could not remain faithful to his wife. I'm sure that his family was stunned after finding out that their husband/father had died, knowing he was with another woman did not make them feel any better. Did he choose her over them? It's just so tragic! All I want to say is that when you are married & especially when you have children you need to think about someone other than yourself. Don't think with your libido, think with your head.

Now all over the news we hear about Arnold, the housekeeper & their 14 year old "love child". When someone is in your life, day in & day out, as she was in their life this has to hurt. To know her for over 20 years & to then find out that she gave birth to your husbands son a month after you gave birth to your 4th child together. How do you cope with that?! What helps you process it?! Over the past 14 years since his birth you cannot say that they have not spent time with, shared precious memories or maybe even confided in with what they thought was the housekeeper's son. What's terrible is that all that time Arnold knew he was in fact their brother. That to me is CRAZY!! How does a person do that to their family?! How do you keep that secret from the people you care most about?! What does that secret end up doing to your children?! Don't parents ever think about that?! I hope they all heal from this sad situation. As for Arnold & Maria I hope after the media frenzy subsides they can try to work on their marriage & find what brought them together in the first place. If in the end they go their separate ways they can at least say that they tried their hardest.

Why do people cheat? I guess that's the million dollar question! 


So getting back to the people that I know & what really makes me MAD! Why oh why would you expose your child, let alone your daughter to that. Isn't your first priority to be the best parent you can be & to protect said child from any undue emotional harm. I have to say that I do not want my children even around this person, do not want them to see or better yet think this lifestyle is OK. Now before you get your panties in a wad because I am sharing my thoughts here I am entitled to express my opinion whether you agree or disagree with it. This is made to get people to think about their thoughts & mostly their actions. When you see others acting recklessly & say nothing about it you are just as bad. Speak up! Be that trusted friend who gives sound advice whether they take it or not. At least you will know that you tried. Divorce is terrible no matter how you look at it but doesn't your child deserve two parents who fight like hell to get back to where they started from? If you do not agree then don't you think when your child/children grow up they can find some solace in knowing that their parents "tried" their hardest instead of just giving up?! Remember a good marriage is not easy, it is hard work. If you put forth the effort you will reap the rewards. I am a firm believer in the vows I took when I got married. For those that read this that are married do you remember the vows you took? For better or for worse, in sickness & in health...

till death us do part...

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Lauren, the tribe, me & my crush...

Ok in my short life, alright it's been 40 years {YIKES!}, I have had about three crushes that I can really remember. I think the first one was when I was in grade school. His name was Derek & he lived down the block from me. He was TALL, had blonde hair & blue eyes, I think. =] The second one was a certain NFL coach named John Gruden. He too is a blondie with blue eyes! I know, people call him "Chucky" but for some strange reason he really did "it" for me for a LONG time. hehee! The last crush was another football guy, a Miami Dolphins Line backer named John Offerdahl. Man it must have been his strength or maybe how he looked in a uniform! Ahhh.... Funny how all 3 had blonde hair & blue eyes! Hmm... I'm noticing a trend here! =] Well, just the other day I got to meet one of my crushes up close & personal! We were at a parade of all things & there he was across the field! I was SO excited & very nervous walking up to him. There I was a 40 year old woman acting like she was 16 again! =] I introduced him to the tribe, my mom & Lauren my niece. I'm telling you he was all that & more!! He really made my day! That moment was such a blur that I'm happy that I remembered my camera! At least I have this picture to prove that it really did happen! So here you go, here is...


Lauren, the tribe, me & my crush...

Friday, January 21, 2011

burning a hole in my wallet!...

SEVERAL weeks ago, OK, almost TWO months ago, I was given a gift card to one of my favorite stores, HomeGoods in the hope I would blog about what I purchased. I have to say that I just LOVE LOVE LOVE that place! They sell pretty much anything under the sun & have one of the BEST home decor dept's around! Gotta love that right?! Now this gift card was not for much but I knew that I could put it towards something really special that I would eventually have for years to come. Since I wanted to spend wisely I "window shopped" at SEVERAL of their stores in the search for that one or maybe two items I just had to have! Trust me this was no easy feat! As we maneuvered through the store I found SO many things to buy! So instead of hastily buying something I took pictures of things that "spoke" to me as we came upon them. Take a look at some of the MANY things that struck my fancy!

Should I get a new lamp for our bedroom?


Or a COOL mirror for the hall?

Maybe a new desk for our kitchen?


Or better yet a chair for that new desk?


How about some frames for all of our pictures?


Or maybe I should just listen to Linz & buy her this GIGANTIC Panda?


The options were endless & unfortunately in the end I left empty handed! =[ I just could not find that one thing I just had to have! I'm sure there will be even more trips to many more HomeGoods before I end up with my perfect item. For now all I can say is that this gift card is really...

burning a hole in my wallet!...